The other day I was randomly "surfing " through some old songs and came across a old video of Tammy Wynette singing her hit Stand By Your Man. Everyone over the age of 40 knows that classic chorus... "Stand by your man... give him two arms to cling too... " So at first I had to chuckle at the video clip I was watching. There she was decked out in a red sequined dress, her blonde hair in a bouffant hairstyle, standing on the porch of a quaint little house.. singing a song with the most serious look on her face. Oh my... it had classic 1960's all over it...Here are the words to the song:
Sometimes it's hard to be a woman, Giving all your love to just one man, You'll have bad times, And he'll have good times, Doin things that you don't understand But if you love him, You'll forgive him Even though he's hard to understand And if you love him, Oh, be proud of him Cause after all he's just a man
Stand by your man, Give him two arms to cling to And something warm to come to when nights are cold and lonely
Stand by your man And show the world you love him Keep giving all the love you can Stand by your man
Stand by your man And show the world you love him Keep giving all the love you can
I love my husband, "my man" with all my heart and soul. There is nothing that I would not give to him, nothing that I would withhold from him. He is the man the Lord chose for me, he is the second chance I have always dreamed of. He is the one who will provide for me, who will be there for me when I need a shoulder to cry on. I had so many expectations as a new wife. But what happens when he falls short of meeting my expectations? Do I begin get bitter and bicker with him, making his life miserable?
Do I become that contentious wife who can only spew out angry unsatisfied words? Scripture tells me that it's better to live in the wilderness all by yourself than under the same roof with a contentious woman, YIKES!
My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him. Ps 62:8
The scriptures also tell me that my expectations should only be in the Lord. He is the only one that can satisfy all my needs. How quickly I can get my focus off the Lord and onto my husband and what he is or is not doing. The Lord tells me to have faith in HIM, to come to HIM and HE will take care of all that concerns me. HE tells me, Patty, pray! Trust that I have everything you need and will fulfill all the desires of your heart!
The Lord reminded me today through the simple words of this song that, my husband, as wonderful as he is, will never be able to meet all my expectations. He is just a man, doing the best he can to deal with all the situations in his life. He is not a perfect human being, instead just as frail and full of faults as I am. So if I keep my heart and mind focused on the Lord, I will never be disappointed when things don't go the way I think they should.
Til Next Time...